THE GIFTS OF ADVERSITY

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As this beautiful day unfolds find something that you know you do not want and recognize its gift. Knowing what you don’t want most often leads you to what you do want.
 
So frequently we let the things in our lives we know we do not want distract us from what we want with all our hearts. We use tremendous energy pushing these things away. The more we focus on them the more they keep coming back as expectantly as the waning crescent moon finds a place in the vast night sky. We let these things have big bold dark colors in our minds and our hearts. We judge, we blame, we cry out, we cling and we suffer. Oh how we suffer. It’s not fair we say; it’s not right. We pay so much attention to this thing we do not want that sometimes our life’s passions, our purpose and the paths to them slowly grow over with vines and thorns.  Don’t underestimate what seems to be the thorn in your side; its pain and discomfort is actually pushing you to you. It can take years down the road to see that our adversities were actually bittersweet contributions to a beautifully unfolding life.  
 
Embrace the variety life presents to you, both what you hold dear and what you don’t. Look the painful realities straight in the eye and say thank you. Thank you for teaching me what it feels like in my soul to have this experience even though I don’t like it. Thank you for using this experience as a way to broadening who I am in the world. Thank you for a lens now more focused; one that helps me see more clearly so I can navigate more precisely on my journey. Most of all thank you for the hardship because it strengthens, in me, empathy and compassion.  And when empathy and compassion are strengthened I am naturally a better friend, a better partner, a better lover and a better human being in the world all around. 
 
As this beautiful day unfolds find something that you know you do not want and recognize its gift. Knowing what you don’t want most often leads you to what you do want.

Laurien Hamilton