THREE GOOD THINGS

Spend today on the look out for at least three good things that you were somehow a part of, things big or small, things that warmed your heart through and through.

We spend so much time noticing things we don’t like about ourselves. All the things we see and feel that fall short from some standard, some way to be that just doesn’t quite measure up when we look intimately at ourselves. We take a peek at social media and can be immediately shifted from feeling pretty good to second best or third or even less. ‘She’s got it all together and me I’m struggling with.....’ you fill in the blanks – no never mind don’t. We go to bed at night and drift off with the list of undone things, the errand we didn’t run, the friend we didn’t call, the yoga class we bogged out on, the text message we forgot to respond to. Too tired or too busy we didn’t make it all happen. The conversation with a work mate that didn’t go as well as planned rolls through the train tracks in our brain like a locomotive out of control and around the track the conversation goes. ‘I should have said this I should have said that’. Soon the gap between the us we love and the us we think needs a lot of work gets bigger and bigger leaving room for disease and discomfort and not enoughness to grow and take root.
 
Positive psychology suggests that there is a very simple exercise we can do, if we are committed to the process, how we feel about ourselves and the world around us actually expands in the most positive of ways. The exercise is called Three Good Things, that’s it just three good things. During the span of at least one week take five short minutes every day just before bed to write down three good things that happened with you in it. Be sure and give the event a name, include how this event came to fruition and how it made you feel as it unfolded before your eyes. Here’s an example: Coffee with my dear son, I scheduled a day to spend time just with him, I felt closeness, love, kindness and connection and I know he did too. Your three events will warm your heart, sooth your mind and fire up the next day. The lines of personal disapproval and fallshortedness will diminish as incredible boosts in joy and happiness are fostered. It is the smallest of gratitude digging that has been proven to increase loving kindness both inwardly and outwardly. Once you get into the groove you can do it with your spouse, your children or a lover. Have fun and please notice the world is remarkable because you are in it.
 
Spend today on the look out for at least three good things that you were somehow a part of, things big or small, things that warmed your heart through and through.

Laurien Hamilton