Today say 'yes' only when you want to say 'yes' and 'no' when you want to say 'no'.

It takes vital energy and dedicated concentration to find our truest passions in life. To find the things that make our hearts sing takes a genuine wholehearted focus. This work cannot be done without willingness toward self-discovery. As your self-discovery grows it will naturally lead to and inspire a more profound self-awareness. It takes enthusiasm, fervor and eagerness to drive this journey. It simply cannot be done without it. Day after day, week after week, month after month perseverance must triumph. Yet the reality is, wherever you are in your discovery process ,reality is going to get in the way. Someone or something will pull you off track. You can count on it. The job you are trying to let go of calls you to do more, relationships that need you want you now, the house needs cleaning, the children need feeding, the laundry pile calls, the bathroom toilet is gross, the carpet even cries out ‘vacuum me now’, the shopping must get done, someone wants you to come over for dinner, go out for lunch or watch the kids.  At what point in this crazy search for passions and purpose do we just learn to say ‘no’ so we protect our time and guard our energy to ensure that we have time to do what we need to do to not only find our passions but also live them with full-inspired hearts?
Dang this two-letter word is hard to spit out at times. Our fear that we might disappoint, anger or hurt feelings kicks in and the ‘no’ we meant to say sounds more like ‘yes’. What they hay, where did that darn ‘yes’ come from? While saying ‘no’ is not easy, truly saying ‘no’ is empowering. Saying ‘no’ leaves time in your life so you can say ‘yes’ to the things you really want to say ‘yes’ to. When you are clear that whatever it is is not going to work for you and you communicate it out loud the people that love and care about you get it and if they don’t eventually they will. Keeping everyone happy is impossible and frankly it is not your job. Remember there are many ways to say ‘no’ gracefully and kindly – Google ‘how to say no’ and you’ll find just the right instruction. I’ve spent way too much time in my life saying ‘yes’ when inside ‘no’ was screaming at me. Have the courage to say ‘no’. Love yourself enough to say ‘yes’ when you really want to say ‘yes’. Life is short, time flies; do what lights your fire and treasure the energy, focus and concentration you’ve got to muster up for the exciting passion filled journey ahead. If saying 'yes' costs you your peace it is way too expensive.
Today say 'yes' only when you want to say 'yes' and 'no' when you want to say 'no'.

Laurien Hamilton